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Despite popular belief, Black girls are children too

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There are plenty of things that were normalized when I was a kid. But when I look back over my childhood, observing the difference in treatment between my friends and me, there are so many things I wish I could have called out. …

Wheeler-Weaver highlights a bigger issue when it comes to the livelihood of Black women

Khalil Wheeler-Weaver, charged in the death of three women, talks with one of his lawyers from the Public Defender’s Office, October 31, 2019. Photo by Mitsu Yasukawa/

“He doesn’t look like someone who would do something like that”.

This is a common phrase assumption of Khalil Wheeler-Weaver, a young man in his early 20s who is being charged for the murder of three women and attempted murder a fourth woman. He stands with his back straight…

The internet’s narrative of the viral ‘Gorilla Glue Girl’ has taken so many turns

Tessica Brown awakes after surgery, relieved to feel movement in her hair after over a month; Photo by Entertainment Tonight

The month of February is barely halfway through, but it has been nothing short of a whirlwind for Tessica Brown (better known as ‘Gorilla Glue Girl’) as she became an instant meme after an unfortunate hair incident.

In January, Brown found herself out of her Got2b Glued Spray, a hair…

We are more than just our trauma

Two Black women laughing together at the beach.
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Another year, another Black History Month.

My place of hire, specifically the diversity and inclusion committee, wants to celebrate Black History Month with a watch party later this month. (Cool, I guess?) They sent out a survey to get our feedback on what movie we should watch. …

Yes, it matters which term you use.

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Back when we were just friends, my husband and I were speaking on the phone when I noticed he used the word females when he should have said, women.

I pointed this out to him and after explaining to him the difference — as well as why it personally bothers…

It seems like allowing my future kids to believe in Santa has bigger implications than I thought

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I accidentally crushed a classmate’s dream when I was in first grade.

My memory is hazy, (we’re talking over twenty years ago, bare with me). …

Finding value in who I am rather than what I’m able to produce

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After news that many of us would need to go into self-isolation back in March due to the COVID-19 virus, I had a more positive outlook at the time. Like so many other citizens, I thought that after maybe a month things would subside and we would go back to…

A positive highlight to a seriously bizarre year

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Here’s an understatement: 2020 is not at all what anyone expected.

Back in December, we were hearing motivational speeches, sermons, and posts about how 2020 is going to be the year of ‘perfect vision’. When you really think about it, they weren’t entirely wrong. …

The things we should (and shouldn’t) focus on

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I’m not watching any more murder videos. I refuse.

There are too many triggering elements to count when it comes to the killing of Ahmaud Arbery. A 25-year-old Black man goes on a jog, as he usually does, only to be literally stalked and hunted by White men hellbent on…

Who needs a check-in and who doesn’t?

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Some of my friends are taking self-isolation harder than others. Others don’t seem to be taking it hard at all. And then there are others who seem to be taking it well, but really are just carrying the load of being ‘the strong friend’.

Self Isolation and ‘Real Friends’

In early April, actress Tia Mowry…

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