That statement truly sums up everything here. I want kids in the future, but I’m still deathly terrified of the physical and emotional pain that tends to come with being pregnant and giving birth. Even when people try to comfort me about it, it really just feels like they want me to “get over it”.

The actual act is very scary. For up to 9 months, you are growing an entire human who is going to take up space and nutrients in your body. Their growth will affect just about everything when it comes to your posture, your ability to do daily activities, your muscles, and your bones. Then in the end, you are expected to push this being out of your own body OR have them surgically removed out of your body which usually involves taking out your insides and then putting them back into place like you’re some kind of Mrs. Potato Head. People hear this and somehow think you’re the crazy one for needing physical and emotional attention after that experience?

We have most definitely normalized the suffering of women, specifically in bearing children. I guess it’s mostly because it is something that is expected of us so why make a fuss about it? I think what happens with the nurses and doctors is that they see the same thing soooo many times that they eventually become desensitized. They just believe everyone is being overly dramatic. Even if that is the case, why be a huge jerk about it?

Even celebrities like Beyonce and Serena Williams had a bad aftermath after giving birth because their doctors wouldn’t listen to them. If a top celebrity can’t even get the attention they need (until something bad happens), then what about the rest of us?