This is it!

Thanks for sharing this, Octavia. I find that a lot of guys who push the “I’m a nice guy, but girls don’t want that!” narrative are typically what you describe as a Transactional Nice Guy. When it comes to the guys I’ve encountered or even former friends who have said things like this, it’s usually apparent that they 1) Feel a great sense of entitlement because of their ‘niceness’ and 2) Are basing that statement off of maybe one or two experiences. For the guys I knew personally, I knew what their problem was: they were either boring or had very unpleasant personalities.

Being nice and kind to someone is literally — as you stated — the bare minimum. It’s something we [should] learn at a very young age. The fact that there are too many men out there who expect women to fall at their feet for showing basic human decency is beyond me.

Great read!